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July 7, 2010 / Donna

IS FORGIVENESS AN EGO TRIP????

On previous occasions I have written on the importance of forgiveness. In the following article Dr. Anthony states that forgiveness is just an assumption and an illusion.  He even goes on to state that by saying “I forgive you” that this is not forgiveness but an ego trip.  Why don’t you be the judge :

If you feel stuck in any area of your life it could very well be due to a lack of forgiveness. Perhaps you are having trouble forgiving someone else or yourself. It doesn’t matter. Holding onto past memories or “stories” is guaranteed to tie up your energy and block your ability to attract what you want.

I struggled with forgiveness for many years because I believed that if I forgave someone they would not receive the “just punishment”they deserved for what they had done to me. But as I looked at that
belief I realized it was just that, a belief. In fact, it was just an assumption and an illusion.

What I learned is that the universe will always seek balance and it will deal with that person or situation in the appropriate way,even if it that means letting them off the hook.  The outcome in their life has nothing to do with the outcome in my life unless I choose to keep myself tied to it.

If you think about it, when you choose to forgive someone, it is nothing more than an ego trip. When you say “I forgive you”, what you are really saying is you have some sort of hold over them.  By saying “I forgive you”, you decree that you are pronouncing them “free” of your resentment. That isn’t forgiveness. That’s an ego trip.

There is really nothing to forgive.  What we call forgiveness is  simply letting go. It is not placing judgment on other people or yourself.  When you are truly conscious you realize that nothing “bad” or “wrong” happened. You may judge it as “bad” or “wrong”, but from the view of ALL THAT IS what occurred is simply what occurred. It’s over. It’s done. It’s history.

Because we believe something “bad” happened, we still think of ourselves as being victimized no matter how much we try to forgive.

So we are caught up between two conflicting energies. One is to condemn and blame and the other is to forgive. This is why we struggle with forgiveness.

However, when we are truly conscious we realize nothing “bad”, “negative” or “evil” happened at all. In fact, what happened didn’t happen TO you but FOR you. It happened to help you to awaken and grow. It was part of your life lesson to bring you to where you are right now and to allow you to let go of your “story” of victimization.

So if you are stuck in any area of your life, take a look at your unwillingness to forgive yourself or others and just let it go!  Realize there is nothing to forgive. You just have to release it and move on.

~ Dr. Robert Anthony

I still firmly believe forgiveness is a way to let it go.   Forgiveness comes from your heart.  Once you forgive and let go from your heart, only then can you move on freely.

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Namaste!

Donna

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