Every one of us knows someone that we just cannot be around for too long before we get frustrated or feel like our energy is being sucked out of our body. When I came across this article by Pragito Dove I knew I had to share it with you.
5 WAYS TO FIND GRATITUDE FOR EVEN THE MOST DIFFICULT PERSON
– by Pragito Dove
Gratitude is the foundation of abundance. It is the cornerstone of living a purposeful, rewarding, joy-filled life. Gratitude activates the positive law of attraction vibrations.
If there are people in your life that you don’t like, the negative energy vibrations you transmit toward them drag down your positive vibes, and you end up lower down on the “vibes scale” than you want to be. For example, let’s say on a scale of 1 to 10, 10 is your highest positive vibration, and 1 will be your most negative.
Even if you have high vibes with most people in your life, just having one person you don’t like can drag your vibes down to a lower level.
It is in your best interest to find a way to be grateful to all people–yes, even if you hate them, even if they drive you crazy, even if you are completely justified in hating them because of their unspeakably heinous behavior towards you.
Here are five keys to transform your perspective.
1. Discover the Root of the Problem
The first step is to spend time with yourself and look into what happens to you when this particular person sets you off. Take the focus off them and shine the light fairly and squarely on yourself. You probably find you’re filled with a turmoil of emotions: anger, frustration, irritation, hurt, disappointment and so on. Allow these emotions to be there with non-judgment and compassion for yourself.
As you stay present to your emotions, they dissolve and you quickly re-discover your inner peace, clarity of mind and well-being. In addition, your sense of humor, and creativity return. From this place of wisdom and clarity, you can start to move into compassion and understand that the other person is living in pain and fear and doesn’t know a better way to behave.
2. Focus on the Good
Most people have some redeeming qualities, although in certain cases they are quite hidden from view. Assume the good qualities are in there, somewhere, because they are. Remember that everyone is born filled with love, joy, and inner peace. Somewhere in their life (for many people it’s because of an abusive childhood), this person has lost their way and become disconnected from the source of love. They have become trapped in a cycle of abuse–toward themselves and others.
Send this person vibrations of love. Pray for them. Ask that they will find their way back to the light. This does not mean that what they did to you was okay. It doesn’t mean that you have to spend time with them, or even have them in your life. It doesn’t mean that you are the person to help them.
It does mean, however, that you raise your positive vibration level.
3. Create Boundaries
One of the reasons people irritate us and get under our skin is because we don’t make our boundaries clear. It’s important to be clear about what is acceptable behavior toward us and what isn’t. This means we have to speak our truth, no matter what.
Everyone in your life should be respectful, friendly and courteous towards you. If they are not, it’s up to you to address the issue. Always make sure that you are respectful, kind and courteous towards others.
4. Mind Your Vibration
We get what we vibrate. If we speak to people in anger, that’s what we get back. If we are disrespectful, mean and insincere, that’s what we get back.
Allow your turbulent emotions to pass through you and, when you feel calm and relaxed, have a conversation with the person you don’t like, or write them an email or a letter. Communicate what you want with clarity, friendliness, and respect.
The more clearly you ask for what you want, the more likely you are to get it.
The number one reason you are doing this, remember, is to shift your vibrational level higher up the scale. With most people you get a positive response, but not always. Hold the faith, because the transformation in you is miraculous, irrespective of how the other person responds.
5. Understand the Power of Love
When we take 100 percent responsibility for what is happening inside of us, miracles happen. We find it easy to be grateful because we have transformed dislike into compassion.
Love is recognizing ourselves in the other.
On one level we are physical form and psychological makeup. On a deeper level we are all the consciousness of oneness. Love is the recognition of our oneness. Compassion, the highest form of love, then arises in us.
Pragito Dove is a master trainer, international speaker, and meditation expert who teaches people how to transform pain and fear into joy and inner peace in order to achieve real world success. A best-selling author and thought leader on visionary thinking, she is dedicated to re-igniting passion and vision in people’s lives, and making abundance accessible to all. As a featured columnist on The Huffington Post, Pragito urges her readers to step into the greatest creative expression of who they are.
Hello everyone!! I know I haven’t written in a while I have been preoccupied with family and health issues. I hope to be back soon.
This is one of my favorites… Charlie Chaplin’s final speech in the film the great dictator, with a splash of modern imagery…
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1. Make your bed.
The book The Happiness Project, explains that this three minute task is one of the simplest habits you can adopt to positively impact your happiness.
2. Bring every room back to “ready.”
I learned this trick from Marilyn Paul’s clever book, It’s Hard to Make a Difference When You Can’t Find Your Keys. It’s a known fact: Clutter causes stress; order creates a haven from it. This mood-boosting routine is simple: Take about three minutes to bring each room back to “ready” before you depart it. (Unless you have a toddler, or a partner who likes to simulate earthquakes, three minutes should be sufficient.)
3. Display sentimental items around your home.
One reason that experiences (and memories of those experiences) make us happier than material things is due to the entire…
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Never underestimate what a simple smile or wave can do for another person. The following video is about an elderly woman named Tinney who sits by her window and smiles while waving at the children going to school every day. Little did she know that it helped uplift their day.
No particular setting is necessary, but it is good if the person could sit on a chair and lean on a table that has a Bible on it.
Person: Our Father, who…
Person: Don’t interrupt me! I’m praying.
God: But you called me.
Person: Called you? I didn’t call you. I was praying. Our Father who art in heaven…
God: There, you did it again.
Person: Did what?
God: Called me. You said, “Our Father who art in heaven.” Here I am. What’s on your mind?
Person: But I didn’t mean anything by it. I was, you know, just saying my prayers for the day. I always say the Lord’s Prayer. It makes me feel good, sort of like getting a job done.
God: All right. Go on.
Person: Hallowed be thy name…
God: Hold it! What do you mean by that?
Person: By what?
God: By “hallowed be thy name”?
Person: It means…it means…. Good grief! How should I know what it means? It’s just part of the prayer. (pause) By the way, what does it mean?
God: It means honoured, holy, wonderful.
Person: Ah, that makes sense. I never thought about what hallowed meant before. Thy kingdom come, thy will be done on earth as it is in heaven.
God: Do you really mean that?
Person: Of course! Why not?
God: What are you going to do about it?
Person: Do? Nothing, I suppose. I just think it would be rather good it you got control of things down here the way you have up there.
God: Have I got control of you?
Person: Well, I go to church.
God: That isn’t what I asked you. What about that bad temper? You’ve really got a problem there you know!
Person: Stop picking on me! I’m just as good as some of those hypocrites down at the church!
God: Excuse me, but I thought you were praying for my will to be done? If that is to happen, it will have to start with the ones who are praying for it. Like you, for example.
Person: Oh, all right! I guess I do have a few hang-ups. Now that you mention it, I probably could name some others.
God: So could I.
Person: I haven’t thought about it much until now, but I really would like to cut out some of those things. I really would like to know how to be free.
God: Good! Now we’re getting somewhere! We’ll work together, you and I. Some real victories can be won. I’m proud of you!
Person: Look, Lord, I need to finish this up here. This is taking a lot longer than it usually does! Give us this day our daily bread .
God: You need to cut out the bread you’re a little overweight as it is!
Person: Hey! Wait a minute! What is this? Here I am doing my religious duty and all of a sudden you break in and remind me of all my faults!
God: Praying is a dangerous thing. You could end up changed, you know. That’s what I’m trying to bring across to you. You called me, and here I am. It’s too late to stop now. Keep on praying. I’m interested in the next part of your prayer. (Pause) Well. go on!
Person: I’m scared to…
God: Scared of what?
Person: I know what you’ll say!
God: Try me and see.
Person: Forgive us our debts as we also have forgiven our debtors.
God: What about Peter Brown?
Person: See! I knew you would bring him up! Why, Lord he told lies about me, and he cheated me out of some money. I swear that I’ll get even with him.
God: But your prayer. What about your prayer?
Person: I didn’t mean it.
God: Well, at least you’re honest! But it’s not much fun carrying around that load of bitterness inside, is it?
Person: No, but I’ll feel better as soon as I get even! Have I got some plans for old Peter!
God: You won’t feel any better. You’ll feel worse. Revenge isn’t sweet. Think of how unhappy you really are. But I’ll change all that.
Person: You will? How?
God: Forgive Peter. Then I’ll forgive you. Then the hate and sin will be Peter’s problem and not yours. You may lose the money, but you will have settled your heart.
Person: It doesn’t sound easy, but deep down, I know it would be worth the effort. Thank you, Lord, for helping me work through this. And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil. For thine is the kingdom, the power and the glory for ever and ever. AMEN.
Truthfully it has taken me two years to post this piece. However, whether you believe in God or a higher power the moral of the story stays the same and that is the whole purpose. Forgiveness. Without it you carry a burden that tears at your heart and soul whether you are aware of it or not. Forgiveness lifts that burden off your shoulders and you really do feel lighter.
So when you forgive the other person also forgive yourself.